Liars And Casanova…

Feb8

The season of love is almost upon us and I remembered a story that happened during my undergraduate days, there was this smooth talker, he wasn’t really a great looker but he knew how to approach girls, sweep them off their feet and soon they’ll be eating out of his palms.

I knew this guy had at least three girlfriends on my street and it baffled me how or why the girls never found out that he was cheating on all three of them. Unbeknown to the guy, the girls finally found out and they planned to have their own pound of flesh. As usual, he’d planned to take his prettiest girlfriend out to dinner on Valentine’s day while he feigned sickness to the other two girls. The other girls hid inside the bathroom of the favourite girlfriend and when he came in for the date, his girlfriend pretended she was in the mood for a little ‘loving’ in the shower. Well as you can guess, Casanova agreed and undressed but when he entered the bathroom with his girlfriend, he saw the other girls and all hell let loose. I heard he walked home naked with his hands between his legs.

The guy was the butt of jokes for the rest of the semester. It’s so sad when we find out that people have lied, still lying or have lied to us! We’ve all told a fib in our lifetimes but making a career out of it would make people distrust you even when telling the truth! I love that story because I hate cheaters. Like the pink rose in the picture, we should cherish true love!

I haven’t posted any stories or articles in a while though I’ve read a lot of awesome posts. I don’t know why but of late, I’m sort of susceptible to the cold and flu virus, my husband thought I’ve worked too hard or rather, working too hard. Cold virus had ravaged my body for the past three days and it was so annoying! Anyways, that aside, an awesome lady, Allison Morris, kindly contacted me with a great graphic titled, ‘Why people lie,’ you can visit her website to read it fully, http://www.onlinepsychologydegree.net/why-people-lie , it examines why people lie, its effect and how to spot a liar. It was an interesting read.

Thanks for reading my post always!

Much love. 🙂

Faith Of The Writer And Other Stories.

Nov19

Faith Happens (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Writing is serious business (or any other career for that matter) you write because you believed you have something unique to share to the world and it’s a very risky business indeed to labour, work tirelessly with little breaks churning out your literary best and not have faith in yourself.

Blogging is the same but slightly different. You can blog with only your close friends or family members as your audience and you might not give a hoot about having few or no followers perusing your page. Why? Because you’ve got nothing to lose.

But If writing is your business, your life and everything you live for then you are in big trouble if you don’t have faith, in yourself and in your prospective readers.

What do I mean by faith? It means to have confidence in your ability to carry your readers along, to write what they want to read and believe me that is hard work. Faith and vision are two separate things, your vision is your idea of what you perceived is right, it’s like a revelation, while faith is the confidence you have to even believe in your idea in the first place but the most important thing is to believe in yourself and mark my words, you will always find people who believe in your work too!

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Now, why not forget what I have just said about writing and just pick faith. Do you have faith in yourself and people around you? Or are you the kind of person who doesn’t trust easily?

I was that kind of person before (not anymore!) My motto was ”guilty until proven innocent” I guess because I have been repeatedly lied to by people I really trust (especially female friends) and I just don’t believe a word people tell me anymore.

But as time goes on, I kind of had a change of heart. I don’t deal with the situation at hand, I deal with the person. I don’t need to have faith in someone before I love them, I just do! Regardless of what they might say or do, it doesn’t really matter. What is really important is, I don’t give myself headaches whether my friend is lying or telling the truth.

Succinctly put, my new motto is, ”Innocent until proven guilty”

What about you? What is your motto? Do you trust easily?, Do you have faith in yourself and people around you?

Share your thoughts and stories with me…

Love’s Eternal Struggle!

Nov9

FALLing in Love (Photo credit: atkinson000)

When I was in university, I was a diehard fan of happily ever after novels, those little Mills and Boon paperback where the dashing handsome (and often wealthy) man always falls in love with the pretty, saintly secretary. I was a sucker of the phrase ”love conquers all” but my myopic views about love was to be shattered in a bizarre incident and though it was restored back, it took a while for me to fully grasp the enormity of that simple phrase. But I am not going into that today, maybe some other time.

The phrase, ” love at first sight” is flawed and that is my opinion, it should be adjudged as ”lust at first sight,” and believe me folks there is real love, because I love my husband and I know he loves me but in the world we live in now, that doesn’t seemed to be enough. Sex has taken over, and it’s been like that for a long time.

Men by nature are naturally moved by what they see, women too, are moved by the sight of a handsome man. I like the sight of a well dressed man but still, I am not moved by that because I am totally committed to my marriage and guys don’t get me wrong, I am not inferring that men can’t love truly but the percentage of men who fall by the way side is considerably higher.

The number one killer of any relationship is unfaithfulness, infidelity, adultery, you name it and human beings are territorial, nobody loved the idea of sharing the person they sincerely love with another.

One of my girlfriends once told me she was in love with three guys and can’t seemed to choose the right one. I was mortified, how can you be in love with two-three guys at the same time? That’s just not possible… I know people might consider my opinion as naive but really, can you love four people equally? Citing the case of Islam where men are allowed to marry more than one wife, four? That’s impossible, there is no way you can rationalise it, it can’t work!

Love will continually struggle to make sense of how people easily thrash it in the can, I know love is not enough in marriage, there must be mutual respect, fidelity, trust, selflessness, kindness, the list is endless, but love is an integral part of it. Without love there is no basis for any relationship in the first place.

In a society where people arrogate great importance to the physical attributes of a woman, and the financial capabilities of a man, love will continually struggle. A successful relationship will bear many scars but its workability depends on the extent of commitment and the ability and willingness to work it out no matter what may happen.

Sadly, divorce is rampant, but many could have been avoided and children caught in the crossfire of warring parents would have been spared the agony but these innocent children through no fault of their own will be scarred by the brutality of it all. Children don’t understand, they can’t! Why is daddy moving away?, why is mummy leaving home? These are the kind of questions kids asks when their parents split.

Maybe my views is truly myopic but I think love can still conquer all…

Do you honestly believe me?