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Recently, I had a splinter of wood embedded inside my middle finger. Initially, the pain was excruciating, but after a while, I scarcely noticed the alien inside my finger. I guessed it slowly became a part of me. It was a slow process, it didn’t happen immediately, but soon enough, it ceased to be an alien. I’d accepted that splinter of wood as part of me, it mingled with my flesh, it attached itself to my blood, and if I did nothing to remove it, it would be immovable, static.

It would have found a home.

That’s the same with attitude. I don’t believe that people are naturally born nasty. They cultivated that nastiness over time. That’s why I love children, they are so innocent but incredibly impressionable. It’s an open secret that children who grew up in homes where swear words were spoken repeatedly wouldn’t find anything wrong with it.


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Life is complex, and most things happen when we least expected. We can slowly turn into a monster, if we don’t check ourselves and gauge our lives with this mantra, ‘how would I feel if someone did that to me?’

My middle name is Alexandra, which means helper of men or humanity. I love people, naturally, I try to see the good in people, so you can imagine my horror when I found out that I’d hurt someone, although it wasn’t deliberate. I was mortified, and I moved swiftly by apologising. Have I been hurt by others? Countless times! But I wouldn’t for the life of me expect someone to apologise to me because life doesn’t work out that way.

At one point or another in our lives, we may have inadvertently imbibed alien attitudes, the great news is, we can remove that stranger from our lives if we wanted to do that. I travel on the tube to work everyday, and I’ve witnessed horrible behaviours from other commuters; and I’d also been exposed to a huge amount of love.

I’m a humanist, I believe in people. I hope anyone reading this believes in people too, because that’s one of the ways we can make our world a better place to live!


I have to apologise for not updating my website/blog for a while. I’ve recently accepted a job offer which is incredibly satisfying but utterly time-consuming. I’ve mastered my daily routine now, and I would be visiting more blogs and writing more posts often. I’ve missed all of you, and as time permits, I would be visiting and reading your awesome posts soon.

I love you all, and please, stay safe!

Love, always! 🙂

45 comments on “Alien

  1. Great read Seyi.
    Miss you too. Take care. God bless.
    M |

  2. Lovely post, Seyi. We’re very much alike. Good luck in your new job! Have a great weekend. xo

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks Jill, most of your posts reflected your selfless attitude! Appreciate your lovely comment and visit, do enjoy the rest of this week.
      P.S: Saw on the news that Hilary Clinton won the Democrats nomination! Seems great isn’t it? 🙂

  3. What beautiful sentiments you have expressed, Seyi. I hope the world is kind to you and puts only the good people in your path.

  4. Such beautiful messages are given birth in your heart each day Seyi, I always feel blessed to be able to embrace them!!!

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you so much for your kind comment Wendell, I love visiting your blog, I’m blessed on each visit. I’m so grateful that you stopped by! Thanks again.:)

  5. Clanmother says:

    So glad you are involved in a wonderful project! Life is precious!💛💛💛

  6. Beautiful post as always. Great to see you every time. ❤

  7. danniehill says:

    Wonderful post. So good to hear from you!

  8. kbeezyisviral says:

    People wrong themselves and fall into their own follies because they’re lost within themselves. There’s a lot of good in this world, but most fail to see it due to the allurement of wickedness. Peace and blessings.

  9. Ste J says:

    Sharing the love, or just a smile influences the majority of people to the good. For all the bad that goes on in life there are always the stories that make us realise there are good people out there.

    A new job? Do tell my friend, I am glad things are going well, a satisfying job is a rare thing.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      There are good people out there Ste J, and bad guys also abound.

      My new job is a means to an end, AG is still the ‘satisfying’ job, I’ll explain further in a PM. Our projects in AG are still on-going, we’ve recently commissioned new titles…

      I hope you’ll have a fantastic holiday!

      • Ste J says:

        Thank you my friend, I am looking forward to it, that and dropping a load of incomprehensible English at unsuspecting locals, hehe.

        I’m also hoping for a better job and a move to Nottingham, which is more me than Mansfield!

      • Seyi sandra says:

        I hope you accomplish all you set out to do old friend! Have a lovely weekend. 🙂

  10. You are so right about kindness. Not only do we learn from home but also from our environment.

  11. Wonderful post as usual, Seyi my friend. It’s always a joy when you are doing something so satisfying. Wishing you all the best in your new job. 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks so much sis! It’s been ages. I only catch snippets of your update on FB. I hope you’re doing great? Would be visiting your blog soon. 🙂

  12. Well, well, glad to read your new post after a lengthy hiatus. I wonder how you combine two jobs together! Speak to you soon Seyi.

    Cheers. 🙂
    Christy Nelson

  13. utesmile says:

    What a lovely post. SO glad you experienced love too, that is the best and the most valuable. All the best in your new job.

  14. Congratulations, Seyi, on your new job.
    Blessings ~ Wendy

  15. Sherri says:

    My dear friend, how I have missed you. I too have blogged sparsely, struggling to keep my head above water. I am so sorry I missed this post, I was in London during April/May once a week for a workshop but I barely had time to turn around with the long train journey, two hours in the workshop, then dash back across the Underground to get my train back to Waterloo. I’m spending more time with my mum now too since her stroke in March and my daughter also is struggling and needs my support. So…I’ve just put up my last post for a while, deciding to take a blogging hiatus until September so that I can take care of my family and also finish my memoir at long last. I wanted to leave a message with you here before I disappear for a little while to let you know I am thinking of you. I hope you got that splinter out, ouch! But what a piognant message, one to take to the heart, especially this heart of one who was hurt recently. Ahh…life and it’s many challenges! Thank you always for reminding us of what is most important and to keep hold of the good in the world and to keep those alien attitudes firmly at bay. Sending you, dear Seyi, much love and joining you in prayer for our deeply troubled country. We will keep in touch for sure! Have a wonderful summer with your wonderful family…God bless you… Sherri 🙂 ❤

    • Seyi sandra says:

      How your message warms my heart! I’m so happy to read from you. My blogging has been sporadic too, I got a new job, (plus the old one) so my hectic job got more hectic (please pardon my repetition!)
      I’m relieved your mum is healing, that’s all I need to read. I’ll continue to pray for your daughter too, I hope God would soothe her needs as you support her more.
      Please dear Sherri, take all the time you need, I’m sure your memoir would be great but in life, there are things that take more priority and I believe your family comes first.
      One day, I’m positive we’ll meet, don’t apologise, everything in its time.
      I’m praying for our country too, like our lives, we need God’s guidance, I’m sure God’s watching over us and with His wisdom, our politicians would be able to sort out the EU mess.
      I’ll check your FB page often, I’m certain we’ll keep in touch, my warm regards to you and all that is yours!
      Much love, always! 🙂 🙂

      • Sherri says:

        Dear Seyi, I love to read your messages, thank you so much for your wise, kind and thoughtful words. I hope you will be very happy in your new job and that it brings you all you hope for, and that it won’t be quite so hectic once you’ve settled into the new routine and flow. I look forward to keeing in touch over the summer, and I too am certain we shall meet one day! Sending much love and blessings to you and your beautiful family for a most wonderful summer! 🙂 🙂 🙂

      • Seyi sandra says:

        My friend, thanks for this message, I hope you’re having a nice summer. It’s almost September and winter would soon creep in on us. I’ll check your website for updates soon, I look forward to reading more of your posts soon.
        I also hope the writing is going on well.
        Much love to you and yours!
        Your friend, Seyi. 🙂 🙂

      • Sherri says:

        Dear Seyi, this is the first time I have returned to my blog in many weeks. I hope you are enjoying a wondeful summer my dear friend. Sadly, two weeks after I signed off my blog, I got news that my dear, darling dad was taken seriously ill. I had five days with him and was with him to the very end when he died peacefully, surrounded by love. Since then I have been struggling, grieving for my dad who I adored. Everything came to a standstill while I planned his funeral and took care of his affairs, small and uncomplicated though they are, and then afterwards I crashed in emotional exaustion and grief. But I believe the Lord in His loving mercy and grace came to my dad and that he found peace and salvation. I take great comfort knowing that and that I was able to be with him to the end. I am slowly winding my way back to ‘normal’ life. Seeing your lovely message I wanted to reply and let you know. I will let my dear readers know as soon as I can. Bless you dear Seyi, sending much love to you and I will be in touch again as soon as I can…
        Your friend Sherri xxx 🙂 ❤ 🙂

      • Seyi sandra says:

        My dear Sherri, I read your message with tears in my eyes. I don’t have email alerts from WordPress or else I would have seen this earlier.
        Take heart my friend. I remembered what I went through during my dad’s passing and I can only imagine the grief, the pain and the unexplainable things that you must be going through. However, I am pleased your beloved dad found peace and salvation, that is so powerful, he is resting, finally, and at peace. And the fact that you were there at the end must be a relief to you, and your dad. I share in your pain my friend and pray that the Holy Spirit will comfort you and help you through this trying time.
        I am so sorry Sherri, I wished I could come over for just a day to see you, but because of work commitments, I am with you in spirit and praying for you my friend.
        The God of peace, would hold your hand and bring fond memories to your remembrance. Some days would be tough, that’s normal, but you’ll get through it. I love you with the love of Christ, and I send you my family’s warm regards.
        May the God of comfort, soothe your mind, spirit, soul and soul. Amen
        Much love to you my friend. xxxxx

      • Sherri says:

        Thank you so much my dear friend, your eloquent and beautiful words and prayers mean so much to me. It is hard, and I do remember your own loss with your dear dad. Thank you for bringing me such great comfort at this difficult time. I hope to return to blogging later in the month, but it takes time to get sorted out doesn’t it? I am so glad we know where to keep in contact when we can. Take care my very lovely friend, sending you much love to you and your beautiful family. God bless you…Sherri ❤ xxxx

  16. unclerave says:

    As long as you’re happy and healthy, and feeling productive, we’ll get by, kiddo! Congrats! — YUR

  17. Anita Lubesh says:

    We have a lot of flaws, cruelty hate etc the list is endless and so contrasted since we are complex species. With that comes intelligence and abuse of power, and, as has been noted what we have become isn’t biological; we teach our kids to hate and introduce them to bigotry and destruction of man, nature, wildlife ..this planet. It is all taught. Education is needed and fast and at an early enough age to offset whatever tunnel views of older generations who perhaps never had the chance to be taught otherwise before slow indoctrination. We have to change, before we are outnumbered.

  18. Anita Lubesh says:

    You’re wecome, and no worries.

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