The Gift


This man reminds me of my dad. Fiercely optimistic of the future…

Everyday is a gift.

A chance to begin again.

But what would happen when you’re facing the imminent loss of someone you love very much?

I’ve been scarce for a while because my dad is very ill. Although he’s pushing towards 80 and has been ill for almost 13 years, I can’t seem to release him. His illness made him very weak and saddled with old age, he’s sinking away fast. Unlike the hunk of a man I remembered growing up, he’s now withered and grey but still, I just don’t want to let go. The  poem below is just a kind of tribute, to summarise how much I love him.

Skating towards the sunset

Your smile melts my heart.

Scooping me up in your arms,

my heart danced with joy.

You said you’ll not let me drown,

that life is like a river.

But when I surround myself with kindness,

I would find help in the storm.

That I would ride on the back of love and rest on the crest of kindness

I don’t want you gone dad!

Stay with me a while.


I have missed many posts, please bear with me and I’ll be back soon. I would appreciate your prayers friends. I hope this month would be peaceful, joyous, and prosperous!

Much love, always!

Seyi David

70 comments on “The Gift

  1. Your beautiful poem saddens my heart Sandra. And so do your words. I know how difficult it is for you to release your dear dad. My father’s one year of burial is this April and I feel deep sorrow that he never lived to see or visit me in my new home.

    But you’ve got to prepare yourself, dear friend of the eventuality which you may not know when. I pray that God gives you strength and courage to live through it and the peace to accept the inevitable. May the love of your family be your warmth and comfort. And may God keep you safe, Amen 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks for your kind words, my husband said the same thing. I need all the courage I can muster, thinking about it even makes me cry. Life is in stages, and he’s at the twilight of his life…

      I appreciate your prayers Celestine.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I’m sorry about your loss again Celestine. I know the pain is still fresh, just remember the good times you had, and that you shared a bond that death couldn’t break. I would remember this words myself when the time comes. And though I shudder at that, I guess it would help.

      Thanks again for your prayer my sis!
      Blessings. 🙂

  2. I hope your dad hang around a little while, with love, prayers, and support, he’ll be fine. Letting go is never easy… Take care Seyi!

  3. Mark Myers says:

    A very sweet tribute to your father. Enjoy every moment (hopefully many) that you have together!

  4. Akriti says:


  5. JC says:

    Hi my dear friend,
    Sending you the warmest hug right now…accepting these matters is so tough on us, especially when it’s the one we love. Your dad is a gift indeed, I am sure an integral part of the mold that has formed you into the wonderful woman you are today. Continue to enjoy every treasured moment 🙂

    Much love to you sister

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Hey JC,

      Thanks so much for your kindness. I want to treasure the times we have left, the memories keeps flooding in even when I’m not with him.

      I’m grateful for your words of encouragement my sis!

      Much love. 🙂

  6. utesmile says:

    What a wonderful poem, and I can say I know exactly how you feel, as I went through the same last year with my very beloved dad. I knew he was going and cuddled him, stroked him, lay with him and cried with him and told him I love him. I am crying now with you. The best thing is you can tell him know how much you love him, as it is so important that he knows that. (that gave me comfort that he knows it) I pray for you and your family and your dad, may you have strength. God knows best, trust him!

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you so much Ute for your kindness and understanding. I’ve tried to bury myself in work, but at the back of my mind, it’s there. You know it’s my dad and as you’ve gone through such similar experience, you would know how feelings could fluctuate from despair to hope and finally acceptance. The point is, I don’t want to accept that he’s slipping away… not yet.

      I appreciate your prayers Ute, I really do. Thanks.

  7. Al says:

    I’m sorry Seyi. I should have read this before bothering you on Facebook with you having so much on your plate at the moment. I don’t pray often (very rarely and only for help with other people) but i will for you and your dad. I hope things improve soon.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      It’s all right. I’ve decided to try and live each moment. We still laugh together, that is when he knows I’m speaking to him. It’s inevitable, death is a debt we must all pay and at almost 80, he’s lived well but even at that, I don’t want him gone yet.

      Maybe a few more years, I’ll love that very much. Thanks for your prayers!

  8. I have lost many people in my long life, and it never gets easier, but I will pray for solace and strength and courage for you.

  9. Uzoma says:

    Sis, this is a beautiful poem and what I would call a ‘perfect’ tribute to your father. However, it’s the reality he now faces that makes me sad. I know that with aging comes frailty, but like you, I can’t help but wish he will continue to live on, to be strong–as he once was. Let’s continue to look to the bright side: He’s achieved a lot and being alive to see you and your family is a blessing to him and to you, as well.

  10. Ben Naga says:


    The past is a ghost
    The future a flimsy dream
    But tonight is ours
    For treasuring each moment
    Just as though it were our last

  11. loved your heart felt poem. I feel with you…

  12. Eric Alagan says:

    Seyi dear, I don’t normally leave links to my posts when I make comments but would like to share this which touches on my personal loss >>>

    I know what you fear and, have my prayers for him and for you.

    Our parents never leave us – they live in us. This is what I believe. Wherever possible, I weave my beliefs into my novels.

    Truly parents and children are gifts – one to the other.

    Prayers and peace,

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I love your phrase, ‘Our parents never leave us – they live in us.’ It is heart warming, thanks so much Eric, I’ll hop over to that link now.

  13. Sandra, this is a very touching poem. There’s so much love interwoven with sorrow in it. My advice is to spend as much time now with your physical Dad. Yes, indeed a loving Dad is a true gift.

  14. Seyi, how sad I am for you. How lucky you are to have had a loving father with whom you’ve had so many warm, happy memories. Perhaps memories will be all you have left one day, so gather them and cherish them.

  15. danniehill says:

    I’m getting older and death comes to my thoughts on occasion. Not the fear of it or the things I might miss, but the hope that my family will remember me as I was, not as I am at the end(or the beginning, depending on your faith). You are doing that and I’m sure your dad knows it and loves you all the more for doing that for him.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I’m sure he does. He can hardly speak anymore. Death is a debt we all have to pay, and sometimes, we ought to think about it. Thanks for kind comment and visit.

  16. renxkyoko says:

    I’m sorry to hear about your dad. I hope everything turns out well . My prayers to you and your loved ones.

  17. Sherri says:

    Dear Seyi – so much on your plate, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad being so ill. Such a beautiful, tender-hearted poem. I understand just what you are going through. Although, sadly,my dad hasn’t been there for me as yours has for you, due to his alcoholism, we have a closeness despite all that has gone on before. He is 81 and I’m not ready to lose him either. Please know that I’m praying for you dear friend, your father and your family. Much love and big hugs…x

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks Sherri. Your comment elicited a feeling akin to wonder. No matter the failures of our parents, the bond is still there, we can’t easily shake it off. I’m grateful for your prayers and kindness my friend.

  18. My thoughts and prayers are with you. It is so hard for us to let go. May God comfort you in this time.

  19. Christina ~ says:

    Such a beautiful tribute post Seyi! I have to agree with Eric….we are a product of our parents and in us they continue on. It is never easy, and always difficult to know what to say that will be helpful to a friend going through such difficult trials of life…so I will simply say you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!! Hugs and blessings sweet friend ♥♥ ~

  20. Sherri says:

    Hi again Seyi! Just to let you know that the Writing Process Blog Hop is up and running. I hope you are happy with the end result! Thanks again so much my dear friend for taking part in this, it means so much. I’m travelling all day today so will catch up later. Have a lovely day with your family 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks Sherri. I’ve checked it out and it was great! I’ll be expecting yours and would do a post about it next week.
      Blessings and love to you my friend!

      • Sherri says:

        Thanks so much again Seyi, means so much to have you take part in the hop. I’ll email my biog and photo over to you by the end of today and I can’t wait to see your post!
        All blessings and love to you too my friend and I hope you are enjoying a lovely weekend 🙂

      • Seyi sandra says:

        Thanks Sherri. I would have to postpone the blog post a while. My dad passed away today. When I’m back fully I would do it. Thanks for your kindness Sherri.

      • Sherri says:

        Again, so very sorry to learn this Seyi. Absolutely no problem, this can wait. You take all the time you need for you and your family. As I said before, we are all here waiting and will be here when you return.
        With much love and blessings and prayers continuing to come your way dear friend.

  21. Seyi, I am so sad for your pain. Letting go is almost always difficult, but it is the way of life. You may not realize it now, but memories have a way of healing the soul. Let him, and he will return to you, not in a physical way of course, but sometimes it would seem in a softer more peaceful manner. I will pray for your peace as you struggle through this loss. My mother had a wonderful way of looking at the stressful problems that cause us pain. “Strength” she said “is born of adversity.” That saying has helped me so much. I hope it will be of benefit to you.

  22. Ste J says:

    Poignant and beautiful, your powerful words move all who read them and this is universal subject means you have our thoughts (mine most though because I know you like me best even though you haven’t said that in so many words).

  23. I click “Like” for your word not for wgat you are experiencing right now. It’s sad to know that someday you will not have someone you dearly love. But, know that the moments you have spent and the moments you are spendin now will be your touching memories of someone who is so very dear to you.
    Blessings to you, your family and to your Dad. May you all find comfort in your fond love.
    Isadora ❤ hugs ❤

  24. Seyi, I pray that this season you’re in brings peace within the storm. Having lost my own father years ago, I know that there is no detour from the path of pain. May both the arms of your earthly and heavenly Father embrace you always.

    Blessings ~ Wendy ❀

  25. Dilip says:

    A sensitive and touching post! My prayers for a miracle to happen!

  26. Seyi, I know it is very hard to let go. It is a beautiful poem precious soul. Thank you for sharing it. Take the time that would be spent here and spend it with this human who you choose as father, who raised you in such a way that you love him so much you don’t want him to leave. That is more important. We will all be here to love on you when you come back. In the now, know that we follow your blog because we like your mind, and time wont change that. Peace and gentleness I wish for you. Love, Sheri

  27. adamjasonp says:

    So, so, so sorry for your loss.

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