The Double C


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This picture calms me down, I’ve stared at it for days, it’s so beautiful!

(Photo Credit: Flickr)

This year would be the first Christmas without my dad. Apparently, it’s been eight months since his passing and I should have gotten used to it now but it hurt most when I know I can’t hear his voice. We were quite close and as this year is slowly rolling to an end, I wished I could hear him call my name softly; just one more time! *sigh*

My Dad

I miss you dad!

However, acknowledging my grief was a good thing, and it has helped me on the road to recovery. Some days, it was unbearable, other days I limped through it. Then last week, while I was doing the dishes and listening to a song called ‘hallelujah,’ I was overwhelmed and burst into tears but my spirit then envisioned my dad at peace and with Jesus, immediately, my tears stopped and I felt better than I had in months. I still miss him, and it still hurt, but I have that confidence that he’s at peace.

I hope I’m not dampening your Christmas spirit, if I am, just stop reading, 🙂 but there’s a miracle in blogging to friends whatever situation you’re in. A trouble shared is a trouble solved, I think I’ve read that somewhere. 🙂

Now with that off my chest, I saw this picture about two days ago and I absolutely love it. Christ is real, and He’s the reason for Christmas, that’s why I titled this post the double C, ‘Christ for Christmas.’ I don’t think political correctness should still be at play in this beautiful season, and if it is, that’s a shame.

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I love this picture

I wish everyone a beautiful and Merry Christmas, to all my Christian friends, I pray the Joy and hope Jesus gives would be yours forever, to my non-Christian friends, I wish you a peaceful and happy holidays.

Much love, always! 🙂

40 comments on “The Double C

  1. Clanmother says:

    Merry Christmas!!! Al the very best of this joyous Holiday season to you and yours!!! 🙂

  2. adamjasonp says:

    You love him so much, that’s why it hurts so much. Winter season can also be depressing.

    But Christmas is there to try to add warmth during these times. So Merry Christmas. 🙂


  3. renxkyoko says:

    I wish you a happy Christmas, SeyiSandra,…. and your loved ones, too.

  4. Despite your dad’s physical absence, he’s still there through all the moments spent with him that you keep in your heart. I understand your mixed feelings. My own dad passed away too. This year marks the second Christmas without wishing him Merry Christmas and Happy Birthday since he was born on Christmas Day. Celebrate your dad with your loved ones and also in the silence of your memory. Merry Christmas, SeyiSandra.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I am so sorry about your loss, and to think that your dad was born on Christmas day. You’re so strong! However, like you rightly pointed out, the moments I spent with my dad through the years is something to be cherished, and I do. It’s just that sometimes the feelings of emotion that I’d thought is buried and settled could just bubble up without warning. My family echoed your words, and we’re getting together to celebrate his life on Christmas day.

      I sincerely appreciate your kind words, do have a Merry Christmas and enjoy the start of your weekend!
      blessings. 🙂

  5. Al says:

    The pain never goes, you just find new ways to deal with it. Losing a family member is one of the worst pains there is. I only know this from what I have been told. I am glad you have seen that he is happy though, that he has let you know he is happy.

    Have a wonderful Christmas Seyi. I hope you and your family enjoy it.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      You’re right Al, it never does. Although I must confess that weeks had gone by without me been down or low, and suddenly in the preparation for Christmas, buying gifts, planning to host friends and family, I just realised my dad won’t be there and then it all started as if he’d just passed. However, since the experience I had last week, my tears has stopped and though I still miss him, my pain was more of a longing than sadness.

      Thanks for your kind words Al, and Merry Christmas to you and all that is yours!.

  6. Merry Christmas Seyi! Have this at the back of your mind, your dad is safe! The Pain and vacuum could still remain but a part of you is a part of him. Cheer up, and enjoy this season with your loved ones, your dad would want that for you!

    Best wishes!
    Christy Nelson

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Merry Christmas to you too Christy. Thanks for your soothing words, it’s appreciated. I hope you’ll enjoy this season too. Take care and God bless you!
      Blessings. 🙂

  7. Thank you for acknowledging our Lord Jesus Christ in HIS season! SO few do, and your beautiful post exemplified HE is the reason for the season. May you feel your dad’s special love through the upcoming holidays.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I know you’re right, and it still baffles me why people don’t really acknowledge the birth of Christ as much as they emphasise Santa Claus and the elves. I’m grateful for your kindness, and I wish you a Merry Christmas and a glorious year ahead.

  8. Jewels says:

    Loves & hugs to you ❤

  9. danniehill says:

    Like others have said, the memories never leave you, but the good, loving ones stay close to the top of your thoughts. Knowing where your Dad is is the best comfort for me. Merry Christmas, dear lady

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Merry Christmas to you Dannie! Thanks for your kind words, knowing where my dad is really gave me a lot of comfort and I guess that’s all I need. I do hope you’ll have a fabulous time during the holiday. My warm regards to you, and all that is yours!

  10. Selah says:

    Be happy for having such lovely memories about him… *Hugs*

  11. I never knew my father but I lost my mother 21 years ago. I still miss her very much. I wish I could talk to her and hear her support me when I’m facing trials in my life. It does get easier but I think we never stop missing those we love.

    Wishing you a Merry Christmas too.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      You’re right Kim, we never stop missing our parents, no matter how long they’ve passed. I’m so sorry about your mum, 21 years seemed a long time, but a mother would always remain one. Thanks for stopping by my friend.

      I hope you’ll have a fabulous time in this joyous season.
      Much love to you dear.

  12. D K Powell says:

    Merry Christmas to you too Seyi – may you know Christ’s blessings at this time. I know it must be hard for you without your father – my own died around this time while I was out in Bangladesh a few years ago. Bitterweet memories :-/

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Merry Christmas my friend, I’m so glad for your visit. I’m so sorry about your father’s passing, it must still hurt… But take heart in the time you had together, those memories are so important. My warm regards to your lovely family.

  13. JC says:

    Merry Christmas Seyi 🙂 🙂

    I love “a trouble shared is a trouble solved”….

    Such precious memories of your dad to remember then and where he is now 🙂

    Merry Christmas to you and your family!!!!

    Blessings always my friend 😉

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Merry Christmas JC!! 🙂

      It’s been ages, I missed seeing you around, I stopped by yours recently, a couple of weeks ago. I hope you’re good. You’re right, my dad’s having a great time with Christ, I just miss him. Have a Merry, fabulous Christmas and a Happy New Year!

      Much love and blessings to you too! 🙂

  14. Seyi, just this morning I cried because I missed my father so much. I never spent much time with him when he was alive especially when I married and I wished I had!. I know how you feel my sister. But it is well. Keep his memory alive but don’t be sad. Have a lovely Christmas and a prosperous New Year. 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I’m so sorry to read that. Even if you didn’t physical spend time with your father, I’m certain you spoke on the phone and just the knowledge that he’s somewhere you can meet with him is reassuring. But life is in seasons, and like you said, keeping our dads’ memories alive is important.

      I wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and your family!
      Much love. 🙂

  15. Sherri says:

    Oh dear Seyi, you are so right, why should political correctness prevent us from celebrating and enjoying the real reason for the season? The wonderful birth of Jesus and the light he is to all of us. Grieving works its way through in its own unique way as it is doing for you, and what a blessing that you have that peace in your heart for your dear dad. But I know that doesn’t take away how much you miss him. I am sending you a huge hug, I hope you can feel it. And I wish you and your family a very Happy Christmas and a New Year filled with peace, joy and every blessing. I’m signing off blogging for a little while but I’ll catch up with you in 2015…God bless you dear friend. With much love… 🙂 ❤

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you so much for your kind comment my dear Sherri. I apologise for just replying now, just caught up in the pre-Christmas stuffs. 🙂
      I guess because we live in a very diverse society, and we’re civilised, we try to accommodate other people with beliefs different from ours. I only hope we won’t be too ‘civilised’ and deny ourselves the ‘right’ to be who we truly are. I feel much better already, no tears in my eyes when I remember my dad, just missing his soft, kind voice. I accept your hug with a deep feeling of appreciation. I truly appreciate you Sherri, and I wish you a Merry Christmas and a New Year filled with pleasant surprises!
      God bless you. 🙂
      Much love to you! 🙂

  16. Maxima says:

    My best wishes for a Merry Christmas & Happy New Year! With love Maxima

  17. Ste J says:

    Merry Christmas my friend, I hope you have a wonderful one and if you need anything at all, this blogger friend is always around to help you out!

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks dear Ste J, I wish you a Merry Christmas too, I hope you would have fun. Thanks for your kindness… you know me, when I need your advise, I don’t shy away! Thanks again, I appreciate it my friend, I really do.
      Much love.

  18. utesmile says:

    I am so behind, so I hope you had a nice Christmas with your family thinking as if your dad was there. Wishing you a wonderful new year!

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I had a lovely Christmas Ute, thanks for your kindness. My apologies for just replying now, hope yours was great too. I wish you a fantastic new year filled with love!
      Blessings. 🙂

  19. RoSy says:

    Oh dear Seyi Sandra. I don’t think there is ever a time for grief of a loved one to end. I think we have ups & downs, good days & better days. Know that your dad is with you always – in your heart, your soul & in your being.
    While we celebrated Jesus birthday here – he was hangin’ out with the birthday boy himself. 😉
    Love & hugs to you.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I like the way you put it, ‘he was hangin’ out with the birthday boy himself.’ That brought a smile to my face, thanks Rosy! 🙂 You summed everything up neatly, I have less sad days now, I guess one’s faith also comes in useful in dealing with this kind of loss.

      Thanks so much for your kindness Rosy, I appreciate it!

  20. For the first two years after my mother’s passing I couldn’t take her phone numbers out of my contact list on my phone. There were times when I absent mindedly called her on the phone because I would forget she was not here any more.

    Then one day I realized that I could talk to her anytime I wanted! I never get voice mail, I never get a busy signal, and she never tells me that she’s on the other line with one of my siblings. She listens quietly as I talk to her about my children and grandchildren; she listens as I talk about my worries; listens quietly as I tell her how much I miss her. When I’m done, a warmth washes over me and I know it’s her telling me she knows.

    I do miss the sound of her voice, but I know that someday I will be with my parents, grandparents and all the others that went before me again in a place where there are no sorrows and no pain, no evil or regrets; only peace and love.

    God Bless.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      That’s a very warm story my friend and it reminded me of when I called my mum and told her I wanted to speak to my dad; there was a long silence at the other end and I knew she was taken aback.

      Your mum is safe, as my is dad. He believed in God and was very close to Him. Our parents are both in a better place, and like you said, ‘it’s a place where there are no sorrows and no pain, no evil or regrets; only peace and love.’

      I appreciate your visit and comment dear friend!

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