Finding Solace…



My Dad

My dad, always with a smiling face! I got my giggles from him. I can remember him now with fondness!

Before I start on my ramblings, I want to use this medium to appreciate everyone who left a message on my website/blog, sent me poems, visited me at home when I was the least sociable, took me out to the cinema, sent beautifully written and thoughtful letters, dedicate a whole post on their blog to my dad ( Rosy, you have a heart of gold) I thank you all. From the depth of my heart, I am grateful.



I found solace in God and my friends!

My dad wouldn’t want me to mope around the house in drags, besides, the old pal was, well, old (76, I thought he would at least hit 80) He didn’t die young, that thought and the simple fact that he loved life in all its entirety makes me want to live with one singularly purpose in mind, leave a footprint in the sand of time and make people happy than they would otherwise have been.

I’m certain I have missed loads of uplifting, hilarious, thoughtful, engaging, entertaining, and simply awesome posts. I would dive in with the force of a whirlwind and read to my heart’s content; though you’ll all bear with me, it may take a while to catch up and I had started already!

I have lots of things to share, some are pretty mundane (I’m even writing a book, not on death, but living) and others, well, I would make them up as we continue on this race of ours called living!

Thanks once again my friends, your friendship and kindness made my time away bearable. I found my solace in God and You my friends

I love you guys! 🙂

Seyi David

74 comments on “Finding Solace…

  1. kbeezyisviral says:

    You always have my support. Stay strong! I look forward to reading your upcoming novel release.

  2. I am so glad to read your post Seyi! You seemed upbeat and ready to face the emptiness you must still feel at your dad’s passing. Looking at his picture, I now realised where your beauty and gracefulness emanated from, your dad looked so relaxed, and I must say, he was very good looking! 🙂

    Take care Seyi!

    Christy Nelson.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks Christy. My dad was quiet dashing and knew how to make me laugh! The memories are quiet cheerful, and though the vacuum left behind would forever be glaring, all the same, I cherish the time we spent together and the life lessons he so painstakingly taught me!

      Thanks for stopping by Christy!

  3. J.G.Lord says:

    To you I send a prayer of peace and joy. He rests he waits and is ever near. on a day to rise and stand with you again. You were blessed with his love which you share now with others, in so doing he lives on reflected in what you do.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you so much J.G. Some days are horrible, some days are good and other days, I just glide through in disbelief. However, I am moving on with the belief that my dad would want me to live well, not saddled with grief. Besides, I would still continue to grief, there’s no overnight end to it.

      Thanks so much for your kind words, it is appreciated!

      • J.G.Lord says:

        One thing that has helped me with my parents passing;.I like to think of them as on vacation. Since I saw them almost daily, except when they were on their vacations. so My mom and my dad are on a trip now, I will join them one day, but until then I have my memories and so many wonderful people like yourself who make life such a joy.Life is to be lived and enjoyed that is the blessing our parents gave us all. may you be bless

  4. My condolences. There is no guidebook to grief. Everyone has to handle it in the best way for him or her. There are no words that can adequately convey solace and comfort. Your blogger friends can certainly listen well to what you want to say and stand by to send you blessings and prayers for strength and ease.You have mine.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks my friend. Like you rightly said, there is no guidebook to grief. I have gone through hell and back, days and nights spent wishing I had done something different, tried a different route to his treatment. But at the end of the day, he said he wanted to rest. And I realise he’d had enough. I still whimper at night, but lately, memories of our time together is flooding my being. Thankfully, he was a Christian, as I am, and faith in God has really helped me and my siblings.

      Thanks so much for reading and saying prayers on my behalf.


  5. Sheeki86 says:

    Good to see you’re getting through and focusing on the positive. I have a lot of respect for the strength in which you exhibit. 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks so much for the kind comment.

      My strength stem from God, and friends like you. There are days so dark I hardly thought of anything else but the fact that I’m missing him badly, and other days while I’m grateful for the time I spent growing up as his daughter.

  6. Continue to grieve the loss of your father — little things will trigger you, so take that moment to bask in your beautiful memories.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you my dear friend. You were right in your assertion, little things does trigger memories in me. But the pain would take longer to go away, time as they say, is the greatest healer and I know I would get there.

  7. Al says:

    It is good to see you post again Seyi. We are here for you, and you have my email address if you ever just need to talk. I have not lost a parent so I cannot say that I know how you feel, but I do understand the pain and the grief. {{HUGS}}

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks so much Al. I’ll send a message whenever it’s necessary.

      I’ve spent most of my time planning the burial and stuffs like that. Some nights I still cry, thankfully though, the tears has stopped and now all I have are memories. Some days are normal and some are not, I just thought it’s better to get back to doing normal things.

      My warm regards to your lovely Children!

      • Al says:

        When we suffer a loss, it is like something explodes out of our heart and leaves a gaping hole with a jagged edge. When you go near it, you catch yourself on it and it hurts badly. That hole will be there forever, but over time, the edges will be worn down so they are softer, like sandpaper on a burr. You will be able to go back to it without the pain and without the hurt as it is now. It won’t heal, it will become manageable.

        I’m glad to see you back. Take care Seyi

  8. Karen says:

    My condolences, Seyi.

  9. utesmile says:

    That is hte beauty of blogger friends, they are comforting, here for you when you need them, I find the same. I am so thankful for all my friends here too. Keep your love inside for your dad , it wil never go away, he lives on in you! Good to see you here!

    • Seyi sandra says:

      You’re right Ute! I’ve had tremendous support, so overwhelming it drove me to tears at times. It’s surreal that people I’ve not met in real life could go out of their way to send love and laughter to a poor soul in moments of distress.

      I hope we would get together one day Ute. I believe you live in London!
      Much love my friend!

  10. I am so sorry you are having a hard time. I lost my dad ten years ago and I still miss him every day. It takes time to work through it but you will always have him in your heart !! xoxo

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I am sorry to hear that! You must understand what I’m going through then. It’s so hard but more bearable now. I’ve made peace with his passing, and the days are not so dark anymore.

      Thanks for stopping by Stephie!

  11. JC says:

    Seyi my beautiful friend,
    Condolences on the passing of your dad. I see his face in yours 😉

    I do agree with you my friend, you will leave many happy footprints in the sand for others to follow…

    Blessings always and a warm hug to you.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you JC! Your comment drew a smile from me, I do appreciate it. I hope you would enjoy the rest of your weekend my dear friend.

      My warm regards to all that is yours!

  12. Seyi, I’m so glad to hear that you’ve allowed yourself to grieve. Thank you for sharing this precious part of your life with us. I can definitely see a resemblance between your dad’s smile and yours (I take after my dad’s side). I don’t regret a single tear I’ve cried for those I’ve lost–tears are good. Gentle hugs.

    Blessings ~ Wendy ❀

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks for reading and for understanding! Like you, I’ve cried, and I’m healing day by day! I’m very grateful for your visit Wendy.

  13. I’m glad you’re back and that you’re writing. It will take time to recover from your lost. No one can tell you how to grieve that is all on you. But I can wish you strength to move on and remind you to take it one day at a time. Hugs and prayers to you.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you so much Kim. Some days I’m great, some, not so great but like you said, I’ll take one day at a time. Thanks again for your prayers, I appreciate it!

  14. stacilys says:

    Hey there. Only time will heal the pain that you are feeling right now. Let the process happen, and then you will come back strong. And ready to post your hear out.
    Glad to see you’re going through the necessary process of loss and then new life.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I am going through the process, and it isn’t pretty. However, I’m certain things would get better with time. I’m so grateful for your visit my friend, thank you so much!

  15. Eric Alagan says:

    Hello Seyi – it’s good to grief I think as it helps heal. If you have the time –
    catch this >

    Peace and blessings,

  16. His smile lives in your smile, his heart in your heart, his love in your love, his spirits happiness in your spirits happiness… he is still alive, within everything we see in you….love you my sister always…God bless!

  17. I lost my father a few years ago while in Bangladesh. It was hard and I miss him dearly many years on. But as with you, he had reached a good age, led a good life and died knowing we all loved him dearly. I can only hope for a similar way to go when God chooses it to be my time. You have my thoughts and prayers for you Seyi – bless you 🙂 x

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks Ken. There’s no mincing words about it, it’s hard but he left this realm a fulfilled man with worthy achievements. Like he would say, ‘I want to make people’s lives better,’ and he did. I appreciate your kind comment my friend!
      Blessings. 🙂

  18. Sherri says:

    Ahh..dear Seyi. So lovely to see you back here, you have been greatly missed my friend, but what an important time you needed, your solace. My thoughts, prayers and love continue to be with you as you take each day one step at a time and so much looking forward to your updates as and when. Life moves on relentlessly doesn’t it, but also in a glorious way as you look to your young family and I know that you will carry your father’s love with you all the days of your life, knowing that you are creating your own, beautiful legacy.
    Much love…Sherri x

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Your comments are ever so kind and soothing! Thanks Sherri. Life moves on regardless at a fast space and I’m trying to live well but the truth is, sometimes, everything is still a blur but I’m certain things would be back to normal soon.

      I’m so glad you took time to visit me, I appreciate it my friend.
      Much love!

  19. Jack says:

    I am praying for you and your family, Seyi.

  20. The death of a parent (sibling, child, spouse) never goes away. It leaves a hole in our hearts here on earth. Just be encouraged by your friends and know they are waiting to see you again in heaven. It doesn’t take away the hole we have here now though I know. You will always miss him. Hugs

    • Seyi sandra says:

      You’re right Pamela, the hole never goes away. I would always miss him until my time here on earth is over. Thanks for stopping by, I really appreciate it.

  21. RoSy says:

    What a great picture of your dad – a great smile & kind eyes.
    Thanks for sharing that picture. His smile made me smile.

  22. Oh sweet, sweet Seyi. How my heart grows for you even more! Wonderful words for your Dad, for us, and the photo of him is a great one. So happy to know the strong woman that is YOU xo

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks for that beautiful comment Christy! Your friendship, like so many others, always fuel my heart. I’m grateful you stopped by! Do have a great week my friend!

  23. Amy says:

    Send my condolences, Seyi! Your dad has a great smile. He will always be there to give the strength you need.

  24. It’s good to see you back Sandra.Your dad was handsome. And I know he is at rest. Incidentally, 28th April marked one year of the death of my own father. I remembered him that day and even fell sick. Each day I see more of him in my second boy. He lives on. 🙂

    Be happy my dear friend!

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks so much for your sweet comment Celestine. I am so sorry about your dad too, I’m happy your second son looks more like him, that way, he would forever be in your sight.

      I hope you would have a great weekend my sweet sis!
      Blessings. 🙂

  25. Ste J says:

    You take your time with catching up your international support network is going nowhere without you my friend. Positivity can be tough to find sometimes but you have all your great memories and lots of people who care to help you find your way. As always should you need me you know my email…

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you so much Ste J! You hit the right cord there, I’ll explain more when I send you a PM. Have a great weekend my friend, I sincerely appreciate your visit and kindness!

  26. gudboii says:

    Whoa, you write quite like me. Thank God. You could check me out via htytp://

  27. unclerave says:

    You have my most sincere condolences, Seyi. — YUR

  28. Hi Seyi,

    I am so sorry for your loss. The death of a parent is heart breaking. I pray that the happy memories of him may give you some measure of peace during this time.


  29. totsymae1011 says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss. So fortunate you are to have had that special relationship with him. Blessings to you and your loved ones.

  30. As a father of 3 girls, I am…very touched by these words from a daughter….such a warm post..

  31. Maryanne says:

    So sorry for your loss too. Hugs and condolences.

  32. Uzoma says:

    Hello sis,

    Grief has no colorful side. In our moment of grief the support from friends and comfort from God are the things we need the most. Just wanted to let you know that I’ll continue to give you all the support. I’m so happy you are back now. May your dad soul rest in peace.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Amen to your warm prayers my brother. I really appreciate your love and kindness and I wish you success in your soap making business and anything you put your hands to do.
      Enjoy the rest of today and this week!
      Blessings. 🙂

      • Uzoma says:

        Oh your prayers have been answered! I made a major breakthrough a few days ago. It’s a heartwarming.

        Warm regards to your family, sis.

      • Uzoma says:

        Oh, I’ll drop by again to comment on your latest in a few hours time.

  33. ledrakenoir says:

    Very well written, my friend – daring to love and care about, it takes courage because inevitably we will risk losing from time to time – but maybe we should not focus so much on the actual loss but focus on what we were lucky enough to experience – this can’t even time take from us – this courage, we must never let go – big hugs from here… 🙂

  34. Hi hon. I am so sorry that I haven’t been here in a while. I get so carried away with the cares of life and my own blog. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my father at 18 months old and my mother at 26. Each day will get better and he will never really be gone as long he lives in side of you. If you need anything, let me know. God bless you my friend. Much love Valerie. ♥

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks for stopping by Valerie, it’s appreciated. I ‘m so sorry for the loss of your parents at such a young age, it’s like an open word but time tend to lessen the pain. But like you said, our loved ones are always near even when we can’t see them.
      Blessings my friend. 🙂

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