Destiny Or Coincidence?

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 So many people have said or written a lot on destiny, it’s an inexhaustible topic. I’m not going to perambulate or go around in circles, I believe we make our own destinies by the choices we made. Coincidence on the other hand is mere luck, it’s something trivial in my book. From time immemorial, I knew I wanted to be a writer but that’s not where it ended. Of late, I’ve been involved in some projects that I never believed in my wildest imagination that I was going to do but it happened nonetheless, which keeps me wondering about destiny, fate, and coincidence.

But today, I’m glad I have awesome friends like you, which brings me to this C.S Lewis quote that I saw recently,

”In your life you meet people.

Some you never think about again.

Some, you wonder what happened to them.

There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you.

And then there are some that you wish you never have to think about again.

But you do.”

Those words aptly encapsulates the people we’ve come across in life. At present, I often wonder about friends I met on this blogosphere who simply disappeared off the radar, some have stopped blogging, some can’t be bothered anymore and some are even better than friends I had known for years. And I don’t think our friendship is coincidental! I know some of you reading this might have wondered about the same thing but I truly believe that friendships makes life bearable! And saying that, I have a writer friend, Tracy Shawn and I would love to promote her upcoming book, ‘The Grace Of Crows” shown here;

Photo: Sneak peek of the cover for our October release of Tracy Shawn's novel THE GRACE OF CROWS.

The novel would be released by Cherokee McGhee Publishing in October, please check It out, and I’ll always tuck in a reminder in my posts before and after the release. Thanks guys! 🙂

On that note, I’ll say, I’m happy you’re my friends and I wish you all a lovely and peaceful week!

Much love, always!


49 comments on “Destiny Or Coincidence?

  1. Paul J. Stam says:

    One of the things I love about all your blogs is that you are always so encouraging and uplifting. Thank you. – Aloha – pjs.

  2. Alastair says:

    There are some that I hope think about me, but I know they don’t.

    Have a great week Seyi

  3. John says:

    Wonderful post! Best wishes for you and your friend.

  4. I don’t believe in destiny. I do believe in opportunities. And I am humbled when they present themselves serindiptously.

  5. rafaelpradov says:

    Hi, Seyi! You are talking about destiny. Perhaps you like this post of my blog:

    Cheers, 🙂

  6. danniehill says:

    People are so interesting and so many don’t even know it. I’m a Will Rogers kind of guy. I’ve never met anyone I didn’t like– just some better than others. Wonderful words you write.

  7. eightdecades says:

    Destiny, coincidence, fate, luck- there are truth and substance to them all, but the real deceiver is the mind wishes to control or assign outcomes it cannot yet understand. To not pay attention to them might not change the future, but to pay attention is to guide your own hopes and dreams with purpose that might change the outcomes. We should never pretend that we have control, but we do have intent and purpose and hope. From this can come the best friends, and situations, simply because that is what we have made acceptable to ourselves, and accept nothing less. So coincidence or luck or whatever, thinking well and good things just seems the thing to do.
    Nice posting and I will take a look at the book as you suggest.

    • Absolutely!
      Destiny I believe in, coincidences, there are no such things!
      Man would gladly think he has a measure of control in events concerning him , but I do agree with eightdecades that we must pay attention to events and occurrences in our lives. It’s only by so doing we may in some way influence certain outcomes if life permits.

      If we are to believe hard work, determination and our control eventually influences the outcome of events, then frankly, the world ought to be filled with many successful and happy people.
      We can however influence our lives and world by paying attention to events and occurrences, also making a conscious effort to respond and accept certain areas and people either positively or negatively depending on choice. These decisions are what will determine the nature of our countenance and demeanor in general and perhaps help make our existence a tad more pleasurable.

      Now friendship on the other hand is a blessing! This is of course solely dependent on the quality of time, love,and nurturing one is willing to invest, bearing in mind that it’s not always on equal measures; hence the long standing endearments displayed.
      You write with so much warmth 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks dear friend and I dare not add more to it, you summarised my post well, and thanks for showing an interest in my friend’s book! I appreciate that very much!
      Blessings. 🙂

  8. ledrakenoir says:

    Yeah destiny or coincidence – coincidences can be our destiny – but fate is like happiness, it is easier to achieve – if you are positive about it – we are often and easily confirmed in our attitudes or perceptions – if we are negative then it goes easier wrong and we are positive then it goes easier well… 🙂

  9. You are such a loyal soul Sandra. 🙂 I admire you so much 🙂

  10. I commented through GoodReads 🙂 Smiles to you!

  11. stevewthomas says:

    Thanks for liking my post on Walking the Cat . . .In response to this post, I’d like to add a quote from “The Last Samurai” — “Each man does what he can until his destiny is revealed to him.” We are all working toward our individual destinies, whether we know (or believe) it or not. A very good post . . .keep working toward your destiny.

  12. JC says:

    Hey Seyi,

    I too do not believe in coincidences. I do think it is amazing how you can make ‘friends’ with someone, without meeting them, but they write in such a way that their words encapsulates the essence of who they are! And you ‘meet’ them without meeting them 🙂

    We are all destined to be something. This made me think about this post I wrote on Nature vs Nurture:

    But it also made me think about your story on how you were a writer from a young age 😉 Now look at you!
    Blessings my sister..

  13. Ste J says:

    It is sad when bloggers disappear, you always bring our the great thoughts though and that makes me happy you are still around. I shall add that book to my TBR list.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      It is, though some disappear for reasons best known to them, one can only wonder why. Whoooooo!! Thanks for the elevation – TBR List!! It’s awesome!! That means you’ll review my new title when it’s out!! 🙂 🙂
      Much love. 🙂

      • Ste J says:

        I would be honoured to read and review it and of course mention you copiously on the blog and send more people your way. I do love your writing and I love books as well, combine the two together and it’s the perfect sandwich…I would be the filling in that metaphor of course.

      • Seyi sandra says:

        Yay!! Thanks for that dear friend, the more the merrier! It would be an honour to have you review my book! (And all your friends of course, I bet I’ll be on my way to having a bestseller to my name already, so I better write well… and warn my editor to do a great job) You make me laugh with your metaphor, I can see you as the filling in the sandwich now! 😉

  14. Uzoma says:

    I am grateful to God for a friend and sister like you. Reading your posts have given me an insight to the wonderful lady and mother you are. In each post, I find a lesson or more (life-giving, reassuring, uplifting, touching, educational, motivational, and so on) and I’m filled afterwards. As a writer on the road to publishing his first book, I told myself that I have to follow other talented and established writers/bloggers. I am proud to say that you are among my favorite.

    Blessing be.:)

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Awwwwww! Dear Uzoma, you make me blush! I sincerely, truly appreciate that comment! You’re a very talented writer and reading your blog always put a smile on my face, and wisdom to live my days. I’m certain I’ll read your book soon!!
      Much love brother! 🙂

  15. gageier says:

    Liebe Seyi ja ich sehe es so es steht im großen Buch geschrieben unser Schicksal ist vorgeschrieben und da kann man wenig daran ändern einen schönen Tag und ein glückliches Wochenende wünscht dir Klaus

  16. Like yourself, my friend, I believe we create our lives by the choices we make. We need to choose wisely, and not rely on luck. And I think you could argue that we make it more likely that we will “get lucky” by making wise choices that put us in a place where good things can happen.

    Blogging put me in a place where I got to meet you– now wasn’t that lucky?? : )

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thanks Mark! I’m lucky I connected with you too!! I’m glad you agreed that we need be mindful of the choices we make! Have a great weekend dear friend!
      Much love. 🙂

  17. Great post!! Your words are always filled with grace and power! Good job! 🙂 😉

  18. Your words are so true! Same things happens with my online relationships. I can’t wait for the book! Much love and success in all your endeavors!

  19. pisicaru says:

    plus this past equals the future, destiny is part of virescul life

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