”Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Leo Buscaglia.
I would be a year older tomorrow. I came home from work today and found myself trawling through some motivational articles to make sense of the impending days ahead, and then I stumbled on the short article below. I believe I should share it and I am keen to find out your thoughts on this though. Do you agree with the author’s point of view? Or maybe you don’t, why?
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‘They say that, at some point, you learn to let go. I must disagree. If it just takes one moment to let go, then you never really held on tightly enough. To a dream. To a goal. To a place. To a person. To anything. I believe that you let go little by little. You let go a little, then hold back on, but with a little less force until you fully release yourself. And the tighter you old on, the more force you let go with. The deeper you dive, the higher you’ll fly. The closer you get, the further you’ll pull away. The weaker you feel, the stronger you’ll become. So do not be ashamed of your weaknesses. We all have them. You must learn to be kind to yourself. You must learn to understand yourself. You must believe in yourself. Never think that you are a bad person. Differentiate between your self-worth and your actions. To say that you are bad is different from saying that you made a mistake. You can’t fix yourself, but you can fix a mistake. And remember, not one person on this earth is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all fall. We all have flaws. We just need to look within ourselves and treat ourselves as humans who are worthy of respect and hope. Do not give up on yourself. Get back up. Be brave. Be happy.”
Najwa Zebain
Najwa is a Lebanese Canadian author who self published her book, ‘Mind Platter’ in January, 2016 by Createspace. She is a deep thinker and writes from a wealth of experience. I don’t know her personally but I sincerely believe in her story.
I hope you’ll all have a fantastic weekend!
Much love, always! 🙂
Seyi Sandra David 
I agree with some of the author’s point of view but not all. There are some scenarios where you don’t hold on and just let go. Citing an example, a woman (or man) in an abusive relationship would certainly want to let go if her life and the lives of her children could be in danger. However, that applies to negative situations. Najwa is certainly talented.
Happy birthday tomorrow Seyi! I wish you, love, peace, long life, and sound health. You deserve it!!
Cheers.
Christy
Thanks Christy. Najwa is talented, I would love to read her book soon. I appreciate your kind wishes. I hope you’ll have a wonderful weekend.
Blessings. 🙂
Thanks Seyi, I wish you the same. Have fun and enjoy your special day tomorrow.
Cheers.
Christy.
I think sometimes holding on is the worst thing you can do. I have had two cases in the last decade where holding on would have been a bad choice.
Other times, I have held on and it has been the best decision as letting go at that point would have been destructive.
Have a great birthday today Seyi. You deserve it.
I quiet agree and honestly think there are situations and scenarios where you just let go. However, like you rightly pointed out, there are also times when you hold on and use restraint. Life is pretty complex and it takes wisdom to nagivate several tricky situations.
I appreciate your kindness, I had a wonderful birthday. My warm regards to the family Al.
Blessings. 🙂
I nearly lost my best friend at one point through my own stupidity, but I held on to her and we are stronger friends now. Other times – like my ex-wife – if I had held on there, then life would have gone drastically differently.
That’s a valid point Al. I’m glad you thought everything through before acting though. Life’s too precious to hold on to what’s already lost or loss what should be cherished. I hope you’ll enjoy the rest of your weekend my friend.
Blessings. 🙂
Happy birthday to you!
Thanks GrannyK! I’m grateful for your kindness. 🙂
Great post. We’re all different. Age can be a factor as well re quickly or slowly letting go. Walking away from the past or negativism is hard but must often be done for emotional survival…never easy. And don’t forget, things and life changes all the time so there is no one pat answer…what works best for one may not work for another.
Wishing you a wonderful Birthday with much surrounding love.
Thanks for your kind comment Bonny. I concur to your assertion that age also plays a factor in letting go or not, and like you wrote, different strokes for different folks. Life is never straight forward.
I appreciate your visit and birthday wishes, thanks and God bless you!
Blessings. 🙂
Perfect image on this post! Enjoy your B’Earthday!
tomas
Thanks my friend, I appreciate your kindness. Hope you’ll enjoy the rest of your weekend!
I think being able to let go of something means you’ve come to know yourself better in some way and you are a little bit wiser, even if it’s a dream you’re releasing. I hope you had a wonderful birthday, Seyi! And hey, the month’s not over!
Oh thanks Dayya. My birthday was great but then next day I fell ill. I’m ok now though.
Wise words written there, we all need that now, we live in a very unpredictable world.
I’m grateful you stopped by, blessings to you!
Some things (such as the loss of a spouse), you don’t want to let go. You learn to live without them while cherishing the wonderful memories of the time you had together.
Happy birthday!
Thanks for your kind wishes and apologies for my late reply. I was ill shortly after my birthday but I’m much better now.
I know, can’t seem to let go of my dad too, it’s been four years and yet, it’s like yesterday. We can’t let go of such wonderful memories.
I hope you’re good though, take care and
thanks for your visit my friend.
Blessings.
Hi Seyi,
I hope you enjoyed your birthday. Regarding the paragraphs – and do we agree? They seem plausible, but then they are pretty broad brush comments that don’t really give clarity. I’m all for a positive self image (we are made in the image of God) but surely respect is something we earn?
It isn’t something we can simply claim – Jesus could claim to be King of Kings, but he remained silent when questioned, and if pushed he told people to consider what he’d done and draw their own conclusions.
Be happy? Great, a good idea – but as Ecclesiastes says for everything there’s a season.
http://biblehub.com/nlt/ecclesiastes/3.htm
I’d rather build my life upon a firm foundation, vague well intentioned statements may lead me to stumble.
Thanks so much for your kind comment my friend. My sincere apologies for the late reply. I tried to enjoy my birthday but fell ill and the next day I was in hospital been prepped for surgery. I’m much better now though.
I pondered on your comment and agree that for everything, there’s a season. There’s nothing bad about positive thinking and all that but we would always have seasons of life… that’s what makes it life!
I appreciate your thoughts on my article old friend, take care! 🙂
“They say that, at some point, you learn to let go.”
The author has taken a narrow view here.
It says “learn to let go”. Learning, aka knowing, and doing are two different actions. For me, what “they” say is correct. It does not happen with a snap of fingers, but it is a start.
My two cents worth.