The Miry Clay!


My hands got stuck in the clay

My skin melts into its blackness.

I became one with it!

I slouched through the mush of my decay.

I smelt the perfume of my horrors.

And wept at the snigger of the hollow.

I looked up and saw the light.

I clawed through the darkness.

I miffed through my tears and felt

The sorrow of the miry Clay.


My soul sniffed my shame.

My hands shook with defeat.

I struggled to save what was left,

But grasp empty air!

    Love looked me in the eyes and screamed.

Faithfulness hissed at my discomfort.

Hope staggered when I called.

Faith strolled past me in disgust.

Mercy held me close…

And I caught a glimpse of heaven.

I am, but a clay…


Can love forgive all sins?


I wrote this poem when I heard the story of a woman whose husband repeatedly abused her, physically and emotionally. She was still willing to forgive him, she tried to make people see things through the eyes of her abusive husband, calling him the miry clay, insisting that he has issues!!!

 Well, this is me writing in the POV (point of view) of this vile man!  (By the way, she’s had a miscarriage as a result of the emotional trauma she’d been subjected to)

And believe me, it was difficult trying to know what goes through the mind of such a horrible man! It’s sad that so many women (and sometimes men!) are stranded in abusive relationships, and the heart wrenching part is when the abused tried to explain the irrational behaviours of their partners! I know we cannot be overly protective of our loved ones, but intervening subtly can really prevent tragedies.

One way is by speaking to the abuser, encouraging him/her to seek help for his/her anger, but it’s easier said than done.

The crux of the matter is, how would you know that you’re falling in love with a monster? And, is there hope for the violent?

These are difficult questions to answer and I won’t even try but from my little office in London, I wish you, my friends, a peaceful, love filled weekend!!

Much love, always!


43 comments on “The Miry Clay!

  1. Such a deep post! It’s hauntingly true, so many people are deeply enmeshed in abusive relationships, and is a sad scenario indeed! But like so many things in life, nobody would deliberately entangle themselves in horrifying relationships, it just happens. That’s why it’s called life! Thanks for sharing Seyi Sandra and have a lovely weekend yourself! 🙂
    Christy Nelson.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you Christy, you’re right, life happens. I can only pray that we’ll be free and safe from the evil of this world. I appreciate your visit!
      Cheers! 🙂

  2. Love your comment “how would you know you are falling in love with a monster?” Most times you don’t. Once you start seeing signs and red flags, it is often too late.

  3. John says:

    Excellent post. As Pamela said it’s sometimes too late. I believe laws on this are far too soft in the States. These men should face a violent punishment. I like the photo, great poem .:)

  4. Jueseppi B. says:

    Reblogged this on The ObamaCrat.Com™.

  5. RoSy says:

    Sad how someone could use their power to harm those that love them. I don’t know or understand how someone could stay in an abusive relationship. Thank God – I’m not in that type of situation. I know – it’s easy to say leave as I am looking from the outside. Maybe the person stays in hope of a change for the positive – hope – maybe it’s “cultural” or “religious”. No matter what – shame on the abuser.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Yes Rosy, shame on the abuser, though this woman tried to make me believe her partner was under a lot of delusions, it didn’t work. How can you claim to love someone and hurt them! It defies rational logic! I appreciate your visit my dear Rosy!
      Much love. 🙂

  6. ledrakenoir says:

    Very well written – actually so love can forgive sin – perhaps sometimes, unfortunately it can – it’s not always love is deserved, where love isn’t part of the solution but a part of the problem – or do situations terrible – either because we can not say from due to by love – or if we use love as an excuse to act stupid.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Exactly, many people do use love to act stupid, like this woman who choose to stay in a volatile relationship that could do more harm than good! Thanks for your visit!!
      Blessings. 🙂

  7. WordsFallFromMyEyes says:

    Seyisandra, It seems like you know this woman as how would you know about the miscarriage.

    I always, always find abuse a painful painful subject. Naturally I wish she would leave so she could know a good life, naturally I wonder why she stays but she seems him as good somehow… just devastating.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      I do know her, and her condition annoys me but I can only be a bystander, she’s an adult! My mother used to ask this question, ‘can a leopard change his spots?’ The answer is no, so she’ll be there till she sees reason… Thanks for stopping by!
      Blessings. 🙂

  8. Uzoma says:

    This one resonates deep, my dear sis. So much pain … so much discomfort for the abused woman. It baffles me why some women would stay in such a relationship. As one-time volunteer with the USAID, I came across two women — on separate instances — who, unfortunately, where victims of such improper conduct. I found out that one of these women was largely dependent on her husband while the other considered it a “phase in love.”

    Sis, I admit that I connect with your posts in so many interesting way. May God continue to bless you.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you dear brother for your comment, if I had my way, I would’ve forcefully chase her out of the man’s house and many other women in her shoes but I can’t! And the pain is terrible when it’s someone you know… I don’t believe that love has anything to do with this kind of destructive behaviour, it’s mere dependence and fear of being alone (on the part of the women)! Thanks for stopping by, I’m always grateful.
      Much love. 🙂

  9. Paul J. Stam says:

    I think abuse is the most abhorrent of crimes because often it is not dealt with or punished. By the way, Thank you so much for letting me know you liked “Final Witness – 3” on – Aloha – pjs.

  10. Hi Sandra, Eye opining poem , words to ponder about.Thank you for liking my post ( I Wish ) Best regards.jalal

  11. Ste J says:

    Wow, it must be incredibly difficult to put yourself into the mind and the POV of the man. I wonder if we ever truly know anybody as well as we would wish. Thought provoking as always my dear friend.

    • Seyi sandra says:

      It was, I had to do it cos I could write about such characters in one of my books soon, talk about delving into the mind of evil itself. Thanks for stopping by old friend!
      Much love. 🙂

    • Seyi sandra says:

      It was! I had to do it because a writer has to read the minds of such evil people sometimes, it wasn’t something I would do often! Thanks for stopping by old friend!
      Much love. 🙂

  12. gageier says:

    Liebste Seyi wunderschöne Fotos sehen schon richtig herbstlich aus,einen schönen Mittwoch wünscht dir Klaus

  13. yasmine1221 says:

    Reblogged this on homepage of yasmine1221 and commented:
    i would love my hands be musaged

  14. Mary C Wilson Andrews says:

    I love the way you think and write! I think we might be kindred spirits on this journey with the Lord. I am now following you and your journey. If you would like, check out my blog, ( and hopefully find some encouragement. I try to find a “story” in all that I see and it seems that the Lord is teaching me so much through all the every day experiences that I have. Blessings to you, Mary

    • Seyi sandra says:

      Thank you Mary, I appreciate your kindness. I love the Lord and always write as the spirit leads. I’ll check your blog ASAP and explore! Thanks for following and liking one of my post!
      Much love. 🙂

      • Mary C Wilson Andrews says:

        I love that you allow His spirit to lead you and it is evident from what I have already read on your blog. Thanks for taking the time to check mine out, too! I can’t wait to read some more of your posts, 🙂 Mary

      • Seyi sandra says:

        I would like that very much Mary, thank you! Your blog flows seamlessly, it’s clean and sincere and I love that very much!
        Blessings. 🙂

      • Mary C Wilson Andrews says:

        Wow! Thanks so much for your comments. I try to be as genuine and real as I can, especially to help encourage others that there is life, not just after pain and heart-ache, but life through the pain and heart-ache (With God holding your hand through it all). Blessings to you, too!

  15. ‘there is no art to find the mind’s construction in the face’ I’m quoting Shakespeare and funny that I don’t know if it is Macbeth who said it. Or Lear. That is how bad I’ve become.

    A powerful and poignant poem, Sandra.

  16. Wendy Jarvis says:

    Thanks for shariing this

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